Betrayal in the Bible: 4 Tips to Find Healing from Betrayal

Betrayal in the Bible is part of the scripture’s narrative along with painful consequences that often follow.

Studying stories of betrayal in the Bible helps you find healing from betrayal in your life.

Betrayal is a painful reality to grasp and is never sought, desired, or welcomed whether in Bible times or today. But betrayal happens to everyone. We have been betrayed or betrayed someone.

Some betrayal is intentional but sometimes betrayal is an accidental consequence of emotional or spiritual brokenness. Betrayal in the Bible covers both types.

Unfortunately, I have been on both sides of betrayal and suffered from the pain associated with broken trust.

I consider myself loyal but make mistakes and have hurt others along the way. Recognizing flaws helps you find healing from betrayal and offer forgiveness.

After a betrayal, on the surface, it may appear you are fine but you can carry deep sorrow in your heart for a long time.

God is in the business of healing hearts and restoring lives. There is not a betrayal that He can’t heal with unconditional love and infinite trust.

When you walk through betrayal and other struggles, you can grow closer to God and become stronger in your faith.

To move out of the depths of pain and chaotic emotions, you need to decide to trust God to heal you and be willing to let yourself and/or your betrayer be free from the offense.

“Lord, have mercy on us. We have put our hope in you. Protect us day by day and save us in times of trouble.”

Isaiah 33:2 GNT

What is Betrayal?

Whether discussing betrayal in the Bible or your life, trust is the foundation of relationships and betrayal is a violation of trust.

The more you trust someone, the harder it is to process and find healing from betrayal.

• Betrayal is one of the most difficult things to get over.
• Betrayal is disruptive and leaves sorrow in its wake.
• Betrayal comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity in marriage, broken promises, gossip, rejection, lies, and criticism are all symptoms that trust has been broken and you have been betrayed.

There are big betrayals that are extremely painful and impact every part of you. But you often face subtle, disguised betrayals that are just as painful and erode your trust in people.

To read about betrayal in the Bible is one thing, but to experience a violation of trust firsthand crushes your spirit.

Your relationship with God brings peace and joy back to your spirit. When your identity is planted in Christ, He draws you back to His love and acceptance.

“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart! And the peace I give isn’t fragile like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”

John 14:27 TLB

What is Betrayal in a Relationship?

Strong relationships are built on trust, mutual love, and affection.

We invest our time, attention, love, and confidence in those we are closely connected to.

The more time and love you share with someone the stronger the cord that connects and unites you.

Of course, betrayal in a relationship happens between acquaintances, but the most grievous betrayal is in your closest relationships; your spouse, family, and good friends.

At times betrayal in a relationship is hard to detect. You may not know about a betrayal or you may not want to face the reality of a betrayal.

To find healing from betrayal, we need to acknowledge that we have been betrayed.

If you are feeling disconnected, judged, or discouraged in a close relationship it may be a form of betrayal. Our relationships are meant to strengthen and complement us not make us feel rejected and insignificant.

Denying a betrayal causes continued pain and suffering. We also prevent ourselves from living out our full potential in Christ.

Jesus, the son of God, was betrayed. It would be naïve to think betrayal isn’t going to barge into your relationships at some point.

^“Everyone marveled, trying to process what they had just witnessed. Jesus then turned to his disciples and said, “Listen carefully and let these words sink into your hearts. The Son of Man is about to be betrayed and surrendered to the authority of men.”

Luke 9:44 TPT

Examples of Betrayal in the Bible

There are many examples of betrayal in the Bible because human failure and broken trust cross all generations.

Most of the influential Bible characters were betrayed or betrayed by others; Noah, Moses, Joseph, David, John the Baptist, Peter, and most tragically Jesus.

Not that others’ betrayal removes your own sting but reading about betrayal in the Bible, teaches you how to be an overcomer and find joy on the other side of pain.

The story of Joseph in the Old Testament and Jesus in the New Testament carry tales of betrayal in the Bible but also courageous healing and completion in purpose.

Joseph is an example of betrayal in the Bible.

Joseph is an example of betrayal in the Bible because he repeatedly experienced broken trust. Joseph was betrayed by his brothers, Potiphar’s wife, and the Pharaoh’s chief cup holder.

He could have stayed bitter and wandered off track. But Joseph repeatedly forgave others and moved forward with his purpose. God granted him favor and an overwhelming degree of success in his life.

 ^“So, when Joseph arrived, his brothers ripped off the beautiful robe he was wearing.  Then they grabbed him and threw him into the cistern.”

Genesis 37:23-24 NLT

 ^“So, when the Ishmaelites, who were Midianite traders, came by, Joseph’s brothers pulled him out of the cistern and sold him to them for twenty pieces of silver. And the traders took him to Egypt.”

Genesis 37:28 NLT

“She kept the cloak with her until her husband came home. Then she told him her story. “That Hebrew slave you’ve brought into our house tried to come in and fool around with me,” she said. “But when I screamed, he ran outside, leaving his cloak with me!”

Genesis 39:16-18 NLT

“Pharaoh’s chief cup-bearer, however, forgot all about Joseph, never giving him another thought.”

Genesis 40:23 NLT

Jesus is an example of betrayal in the Bible.

Jesus is an example of the greatest betrayal in the Bible and of all time. He willingly endured the most severe consequence of betrayal; His death.

• Jesus knew in advance He would be betrayed.

“After they gathered again in Galilee, Jesus told them, “The Son of Man is going to be betrayed into the hands of his enemies.”

Matthew 17:22 NLT

• Jesus was betrayed by one of His closest friends in front of a crowd.

 ^“And even as Jesus said this, Judas, one of the twelve disciples, arrived with a crowd of men armed with swords and clubs. They had been sent by the leading priests and elders of the people.”

Matthew 26:47 NLT

• Jesus knew God His Father needed His betrayal to happen in order to save us.

“But God knew what would happen, and his prearranged plan was carried out when Jesus was betrayed. With the help of lawless Gentiles, you nailed him to a cross and killed him.”

Acts 2:23 NLT

 “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”

John 3:16 NLT

“If we have been betrayed by someone close to us—and eventually we all will—our first response should be to cry out to Jesus who loves us, pursues us, and intimately understands the reality of that betrayal.”

Dr. Drew Randle, Professor of Christian Ministry at Bryan College.

Healing from Betrayal

Healing from betrayal is a difficult journey.

When we experience betrayal, we process the hurt and disbelief by repeating the situation in our thoughts and conversations with others.

Broken trust is so hurtful that we can become stuck in our faith if we are not intentional in healing from betrayal.

Betrayal hovers over our emotions threatening to isolate us and consume our identity. But when our identity is in Christ, we have a great defender. Jesus guides us to His great love and restores our confidence in who we are.

People don’t complete or define us. Only Jesus has the ability and the desire to do that.

4 Tips to Help Find Healing from Betrayal

#1 Healing from betrayal takes time.

Prayer and grieving are important components that work with time to help us find healing from betrayal. Time alone doesn’t usually heal anything.

The passage of time can numb the pain and change our perspective, but complete healing from betrayal requires action; seeking God’s will, a close friend’s advice, and sometimes outside counsel too.

#2 Healing from betrayal does not mean the relationship is restored.

Once we acknowledge a betrayal or repeated betrayals it is time to examine the relationship. We must determine what is feeding the cycle of broken trust.

God can guide us to the best decision and whether we should confront the person who betrayed us, how to move on, or repair the relationship.

#3 Healing from betrayal requires recognizing we did not cause the betrayal.

Whoever betrayed us is responsible for the act of betrayal. Regardless of what behavior or event preceded the broken trust, it is still the responsibility of the person who betrays. This is a liberating truth that is instrumental in finding healing from betrayal.

#4 Healing from betrayal is possible by trusting God with our sorrow and leaning on Him to fill our vacant spaces.

After we are betrayed, it can be hard to trust again, but Jesus will never betray our trust or leave us. Since we are all broken humans, we can not guarantee that we will be 100% trustworthy and loyal.

We sometimes hurt others unintentionally but that does not take away their hurt or feelings of betrayal.

Relying on God’s faithfulness instead of others’ brokenness helps us heal and walk in grace.

Social worker Kristin Meekhof describes the importance of healing from betrayal,

“Betrayal requires an integrative approach to healing because it impacts emotional, spiritual, and physical dimensions of one’s life.”

But be encouraged, with God, healing from betrayal is always possible. Believing this truth blocks fear from preventing you from trusting again.

Prayer for Healing from Betrayal

If you are stuck in the fallout of a betrayal, it takes courage to name the struggle and seek to move on.

It helps to call out to God in prayer and talk to a close friend or mentor.

You may not have the opportunity to address the betrayer or your hurt and disappointment with anyone other than God. Jesus promises to bring healing regardless of the size or scope of your struggle.

Here is a prayer for healing from a betrayal that I have used.

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“Dear Jesus,

I am hurting because (fill in the name) has broken my trust. The pain is crushing and makes me feel disappointed, responsible, unloved, and/or angry (fill in your feelings). I can’t control what other people do or say but I can find healing from betrayal in your presence.

Walk beside me as I process, grieve, and forgive.

Please heal my wounds (fill in your specific emotional or physical wounds) and lead me to new paths of recovery and hope so that I may trust again. Amen”

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“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Matthew 11:28-29 NLT

My prayer is that through learning the stories of betrayal in the Bible and understanding the complexity of betrayal, you find healing from betrayal and continue on the mission God has uniquely prepared for you!

Author

Mary Rooney Armand

Mary is the creator and writer for the faith-based blog ButterflyLiving.org. Her writing has been featured on multiple websites and she is the author of the book, “Identity, Understanding, and Accepting Who I am in Christ” and the collaboration Life Changing Stories available on Amazon