Finding God in Grief: How to Draw Closer to God While Walking Through Loss

Grief is the expression of deep sadness and sorrow. It erupts from the loss of something you value and love.

Finding God in grief allows you to freely grieve while holding onto hope and a promise that is bigger than any loss you are experiencing.

When you experience grief, God’s presence comforts you regardless of what you have lost.

  • Finding God in grief is possible after the death of a loved one.
  • Finding God in grief is possible after the end of a friendship.
  • Finding God in grief is possible when a dream is unfulfilled or ends.

Unexpected encounters with grief surround us. We may wonder, Why me? Why is this grief a part of my story? Is my grief here to help me find God in grief? When will my grieving stop?

Finding God in grief does not eliminate the process you have to go through in order to heal, but faith helps you cling to something bigger and stronger than your crushed spirit.

Whether you are facing grief or walking beside a grieving loved one, finding God in grief is possible when you put your trust in Jesus and His great love for you.

God’s greatest command and our greatest joy are to love extravagantly. When you love big, you grieve big. Holding onto Jesus helps you make it to the other side of your pain.

“Bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love.”

C.S. Lewis

“My flesh and my heart fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”

Psalm 73:26

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How to Deal with Grief Spiritually

When you learn how to deal with grief spiritually, it transforms how you grieve. It also helps you empathize with others who are grieving.

Dealing with grief spiritually doesn’t remove the sting or crippling pain of sorrow. Grief plunges you into an unknown space and demands that you pay attention to it. But God’s faithfulness partners with you and carries the weight of your sorrow.

Finding God in grief helps you climb over sorrow while preventing you from being completely debilitated. isolated and unable to focus on your life, your relationships, your purpose, and your future.

The doorbell rang on a typical Sunday afternoon. I didn’t jump up right away, because it is usually a neighbor or the friend of one of my kids.

But not this time.

I heard whispers coming from the front porch; my curiosity peaked and I approached the door.

Grief was standing before me so real it felt I could reach out and grab it.

A small disheveled lady stood on the porch talking to my husband. I immediately knew she was overwhelmingly sad as if she was wearing a heavy cape of oppression. I could feel her sadness and despair.

My husband was trying to help her but couldn’t answer her questions.

She looked me in the eyes and said, “Do you know my grandson, Jack? He lives near here.” She seemed confused and disoriented. As we unpacked her request, we made the connection that my son went to school with Jack.

That is when the realization hit me, Jack’s dad had died unexpectedly; she had just lost her son. Grief surrounded her threatening to choke off her ability to live and breathe; she seemed lost and unable to find hope.

I felt compassion and was reminded that grief makes us feel and do strange things.

Relying on God’s direction on how to deal with grief spiritually, we began to gently guide her to finding God in grief moment by moment.

“Grief can be overwhelming. It affects the way you feel, how you sleep, every one of your relationships, and the way you think about the future. It’s hard just to get out of bed in the morning, and every task feels like a heavy burden. The crushing feelings of helplessness, fear, and isolation seem relentless. When you feel like you’re drowning in grief, let your faith be your lifeline.”

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How to Overcome the Spirit of Grief

As we tried to help our neighbor, we learned she was suffocating from the weight of the sorrow she was carrying. She had no one to talk to and her family was not ready to talk about her grief or loss.

We are not counselors or experts in grief management, but we serve an amazing God and want to be used to bring His hope to others.

We felt we had been given the assignment to encourage and help her overcome the spirit of grief; to demonstrate the love of Christ to someone who was in tremendous pain.

We also recognized that this random visitor needed acceptance and for us to listen and embrace where she was and needed help finding God in grief.

4 Ways to Overcome the Spirit of Grief

On my porch that day we realized the importance of finding God in grief after a great loss.

Here are four ways we reached out:

  • Talk about your loss and your pain when you are ready- We listened to her and affirmed the life of her son.
  • Pray alone and with others- We asked her if we could pray with her and then prayed together standing in our driveway
  • Seek Professional Counsel- We suggested she continue her grief conversations with a professional
  • Take the Next Step-  We got in our car and guided her to where she wanted to go

We have not seen our visitor again, and I am sure she has been on a grueling journey of grieving for her son. But I will never forget her raw grief or the spark of hope in her eyes as she became acquainted with the hope only God offers.

“What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us.”

Helen Keller

How Does God Comfort Us When We Grieve or Mourn?

Some of us go through stages of grief over a long period and others can process grief quicker.

There is no exact formula for how to grieve, and we don’t need to measure how we grieve. Mourning is an extremely personal journey with many highs and lows. Finding God in grief is the greatest resource to heal.

As my dog, Mackie, deteriorated in health, we started the grieving process. We all began to say goodbye while he was still alive to make the transition smoother. When our sweet Mackie died, we had to adjust and fill the beautiful place he left vacant. It was a process that took time while we resisted the urge to prematurely fill the vacancy or numb the pain.

Grieving for a pet may not be as crippling as the loss of a loved one but it is still a process we walk through with or without God.

When something or someone fills us with joy, if they leave through death or other reasons, we are left with a gaping hole. We can grieve by filling our emptiness with many unhealthy choices or deny the pain the loss caused.

Or we can decide that finding God in grief will allow us to rest in His love and release an outpouring of sorrow to Him.

How does God comfort us when we grieve? His presence surrounds us and always guides us back to hope. Not a superficial hope or denial; a real replacement from the emptiness of loss to the fullness of His love. That is the best result of finding God in grief.

Regardless of our loss or how we grieve, it is important to understand how God comforts us when we grieve and mourn.

Questioning God after the death of a loved one is a natural reaction. When we are devastated by loss, we are seeking answers and God can handle our questions.

Grieving does not mean we have lost our connection to God or that our faith is faltering. We can be angry with God as we transition through grief. He will support and walk beside you surrounding you with a peace that passes understanding.

Finding God in grief is the best way to hold onto our faith, process, and recover from the loss of someone or something we love.

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Providing Hope in Grief

Grief is hard, and we are not created for loss. It is an unnatural part of life that we never grow comfortable with.

When we are grieving, we need time, support from family and friends, and supernatural power to move on.

When we provide hope in grief to others it can be a motivating factor and propel us to make sense of our loss through serving others.

We don’t need to be grief experts to provide hope in grief or to help those in need. We can acknowledge others’ grief and that there is a gap in wholeness where hope is needed.

Providing hope in grief is not fixing the problem or eliminating the pain it is:

  • Listening without assuming we understand the pain or the need
  • Praying for the person who needs help finding God in grief
  • Gently guiding them toward the next step

We all go through seasons of grief. Finding God in grief is how we can move past our loss, comfort others, and stay connected to Jesus.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Bible Verses About Grief

When you are grieving, in despair, and need to hear from God many Bible verses point us to peace.

Here are 8 scriptures about grief that can help you find God in grief.

  • “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
    John 16:33
  • “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
    Matthew 5:4
  • “…my eyes are dim with grief. I call to you, Lord, every day; I spread out my hands to you.”
    Psalm 88:9
  • “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
    Philippians 4:7
  • “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”
    Psalm 23:4
  • “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed.”
    Proverbs 15:22
  • “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
    Romans 12:15
  • “The Lord is near to those who are discouraged; he saves those who have lost all hope.” Psalm 34:18 GNT

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Christian Books on Grief

The Bible has been the greatest source for me to cling to God in grief. Books on grief are tricky because they are hard to read amid the tough feelings that accompany loss.

Reading various sources is helpful while questioning God after the death of a loved one.

Christian books on grief, point us to Jesus and can serve as a resource long after we feel we desperately need them.

Here are several books on loss, finding God in grief, and overcoming hard times that are helpful.

3 Christian Books on Finding God in Grief

#1 The Hard Good: Showing Up for God to Work in You When You Want to Shut Down

by Lisa Whittle

Learn how to see the good, again, even after hard times.

What does it feel like to come back from something hard, to be able to hope again? Hard things are a part of life. Yet they don’t have to have the final word. They can become the keys to our greatest usability in the kingdom of God—that is, if we let God make good of them, rather than running away and refusing the growth we truly crave.

#2 Good Grief: A Companion for Every Loss

by Granger E. Westberg

For more than fifty years Good Grief has helped millions of readers, including NFL players and a former first lady, find comfort, understand their emotions and regain hope after loss. This classic text identifies ten stages of grief — shock, emotion, depression, physical distress, panic, guilt, anger, resistance, hope, and acceptance — but recognizing that grief is complex and deeply personal, defines no “right” way to grieve.

#3 Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love: Daily Meditations to Help You Through the Grieving Process

by Raymond R. Mitsch and Lynn Brookside 

This series of thoughtful daily devotions can help you endure the anguish and uncertainty; understand the cycles of grief; sort through the emotions of anger, guilt, fear, and depression; and face the God who allowed you to lose the one you love.

Finding God in Grief

During my heaviest periods of despair finding God in grief was the only comfort I could cling to.

  • Finding God in grief has been a safe place to process my feelings and walk through the stages of loss.
  • Finding God in grief is not a bandage for our sorrow, but the path to walk through grief with Jesus who loves us more than what we have lost absorbing our loneliness and an overwhelming sense of loss.
  • Finding God in grief is not limited to death although that is the most difficult form of grieving. Questioning God after the death of a loved one is probably the most difficult conversation. But we also grieve when we lose a friend, a job, a spouse, a pet, or a home.

Losing anything we love and value can lead to grief. The grieving process is an important part of spiritual growth. We learn to rely on God and gain a deep understanding of our limitations.

“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.”

C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

No one can stop all loss but we can learn that finding God in grief is the best way to grow closer to Jesus while experiencing true healing.

“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give your rest.”

Matthew 11:28

Before you go…Has finding God in grief been part of your journey? Would love to hear from you in the comments.


Mary Rooney Armand

Mary is the creator and writer for the faith-based blog Her writing is featured on multiple Christian websites. She is the author of the book, “Identity, Understanding, and Accepting Who I Am in Christ”  and Life Changing Stories. a collaboration with 34 authors available on Amazon.

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Mary Rooney Armand

Mary Rooney Armand is an Author, Speaker, and Creator of the faith-based blog She helps others grow in their intimacy with Christ and thrive in their relationships. Her work is featured on multiple websites including Women of Noble Character, Pray with Confidence, and The Brave Women Series. Mary is the author of, “Identity, Understanding, and Accepting Who I Am in Christ” and, “Life Changing Stories” a collaboration with 34 authors sharing stories of God’s faithfulness. Besides writing, Mary leads small groups and speaks at retreats. She directed Kids Hope USA, a mentoring program for children, worked in marketing and sales, and has led mission trips to Honduras. Mary is a life coach with a Bachelor's degree in Marketing and an MBA. She and her wonderful husband Cory live in New Orleans and are the parents of four children, a new daughter-in-law, and two dogs! Connect with Mary on Instagram or Facebook.


  1. Jodi on December 14, 2021 at 12:37 pm

    Hi. As I read about you helping your visitor, I thought about how we are helping Jesus as we help others. Beautiful story. Grief can be a difficult subject. Keeping our eyes on God is the best solution. Thank you for sharing. God bless.

    • Mary Rooney Armand on December 15, 2021 at 1:50 pm

      Thank you for reading! God bless you!

      • Tricia Milligan on July 4, 2022 at 9:11 am

        Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts. In the last week I have experienced the unexpected death of a friend and the loss of a former student at much too young of an age. I was sitting in the quiet, journaling my thoughts to the Lord and trying to process it all. God had given me the word seek this year so I was contemplating how I can seek Him even in this grief, which lead me to this. You put into words some of the thoughts floating around in my head and gave me a few others to help me walk through this with Him.

        • Mary Rooney Armand on July 7, 2022 at 10:48 am

          Oh gosh, I am sorry. Loss is so hard and to experience it twice in a week is heartbreaking. I pray you continue to find words of hope in your grief journey. Thanks for taking the time to read and encourage/connect. May God’s peace surround you, Mary

  2. Don Davies on May 22, 2022 at 9:16 am

    Grief is hard on our bodies, spirits, and brains. Such grieving literature and sermons are critical since most of us have no concept how to live with or connect with bereaved people. That is why we need read more books and listen to sermons by Pastors like Keion Henderson,, to learn more about this circumstance, how to console others in sorrow, and how to deal with grief on our own.

  3. Van Henderson on July 7, 2022 at 9:51 am

    Thank You! I’ve decided to step down from Leadership at my place of worship. I see it as the best for the body. I am grieving the loss of the true fellowship. I made a note to myself in December 21 to read your thoughts. Right On Time! thank you as I go through this process,

    • Mary Rooney Armand on July 7, 2022 at 10:50 am

      I am sorry you are experiencing loss and grief. Stepping down is a difficult choice. I pray you find hope and a new direction/assignment in the presence of God. Thanks for stopping by to read and connect. It is a blessing to help others even if we don’t know each other! Mary

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  11. Brian on July 27, 2023 at 11:56 am

    About two months ago, after a few messy conversations with members of my church, I found myself throwing out nearly everything I owned in fear that I was displeasing God. As I try to move on, I find myself deeply hurt, not because I don’t have my things- though this does make me sad-, but because I can’t help feeling like I threw myself away in the process. I have felt ashamed to go to God with my hurt because I keep hearing in my head, “this is what you get for building treasures here on earth.” It has taken all of me to come to God amidst the shame and lay my pain at His feet. This is something most people in my life have not experienced or understand. I feel like I literally plucked out my eye or cut off my hand, and I’m not even sure that was what I was supposed to do. I thought it would bring me peace, but it did not. I know that God has used this pain and He will continue to use it, but that does not mean I don’t feel a deep sense of loss as I try to recover.

  12. Lorraine on August 14, 2023 at 11:53 pm

    Hi Mary thank you for this… God led me to read this as I’m grieving the loss of my 2 wee dogs who were my absolutely world.. Louie passed away a year ago on the 12th March and Buddie on the 29th July this year… I’m heartbroken but God has been my absolute rock… thank you for your teaching and your encouragement xx

  13. Destiny on December 12, 2023 at 8:10 pm

    Grief is hard, you can’t explain it and you just want to come out of it. Losing my dad on June 13th this year has been the hardest emotional burden my heart has ever carried. Some days I cry my way to work, some days I pray so hard so I don’t feel the pain, some days I try to hang out with friends and family but is just temporary happiness. I have told myself countless times that is not a dream but is hard to believe and process. I know Jesus is taking care of me because he promised me in Isaiah 43:2 that when I pass through the waters he will be with me, when I pass through the rivers they will not sweep over me, when I walk through the fire I will not be burned and so, therefore, I hold God accountable for his words and promises towards me. God will heal me because am his child and his my father, I know that I no longer have an earthly father but I have a heavenly father who is always going to be with you. To everyone who is grieving God will take care of you, he will make ways for you, he will uphold you and fill you up. God is real and he will not leave you nor forsake you. God bless you

  14. Diane on March 31, 2024 at 9:26 pm

    beautiful, I offer up my grief for God Jesus and the holy Spirit will always be with me I’m not alone I am comforted in his love.

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